Funeral for a friend today. It was kind of a bad limbo weekend. I struggled with all kinds of thoughts, good and bad, I cried a lot. This just all seems wrong but I know that's just my human nature talking. It's good that he doesn't have to suffer anymore. It's good that, at the end, he was really ready to go. It's good that he made peace with himself and many others. It's just so bad that Graci and Bella will not have their father around and he loved those girls and lived for them. He was able to get cards made through graduation. He did a few videos for them for birthdays and big events. It breaks my heart. I do trust that God, in his infinite wisdom, knows what He is doing. Please keep this family in your thoughts and prayers.
In all my thinking this weekend I compared two situations and can't figure out which is better....I'm sure this has been debated and talked about for ages but I was curious what everyone thinks. Which would you rather:
Have time to button up your life. Say you've been diagnosed with a disease, much like Chris, and have a year to live. There will likely be lots of pain, lots of suffering, lots of hospital visits but there will also be time to see everyone, say goodbye to everyone, fix and finalize every last detail for your family to the best of your ability so that when you take your last breath you have peace...
OR
Go suddenly, without much pain and suffering, but without being able to say you had everything just right for your family and said all your goodbyes, etc.
Unfortunately we don't get to pick, usually, which situation would be ours. But the important thing is to live your life like today could be your last. Love hard, live life to its fullest, be nice, considerate, thoughtful, be forgiving, believe in God, trust in His promises.
Monday, July 13, 2009
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5 comments:
Oh, those hard questions. I'm glad we don't get to pick our timing. Too much to consider - I think God knows best (that also might be a cop out answer).
I hope the funeral today is a great memorial to Chris and that all of you can remember what a great friend and dad and husband he was. He was blessed to have friends like you!
Today will no doubt be difficult and nothing I can say will make it better.
HUGS!
You are so right...we should live like today is our last.
I can't decide between the two options you suggested. It's hard.
I just want to make sure I've said "I love you" to everyone before I go.
Sorry to hear about your friend. I think it would be better to just go one day without warning. But, like you said, we don't get to choose.
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